Hi blog readers!
Miss me? hehehehe It’s time to write about Aiden again 🙂
Scene: Tiap kali Aiden berdoa, sering kali isinya begini…
- “Lord Jesus, I bless Mommy and Daddy with the Holy Spirit. So Mommy and Daddy not be angry with me and discipline me if I do the wrong thing. “
- “Holy spirit be with Jiahao (anak tetangga) because he doesn’t know Jesus. The fire fall on this town, so the children can sleep by themselves. No need sleep with their daddy or mommy.” (Aiden lagi diajarin bobo dikamar nya sendiri ama Lyon, ga perlu ditemenin gue or G)
Aiden suka bilang sesuatu and kalo ditanya, jawabnya; “…. because Jesus told me”
Me: good, u remember to clean up your toys.
Aiden: yes, I do the right thing, Mommy. Jesus told me. I can hear him.
There was one day, he disobey about some old thing again.
Me: why did you do it again??? You know it’s a bad thing to do!
Aiden: Because Jesus never told me! He is sleeping now coz it is night time…!
Scene: Aiden maen2 diranjang and accidentally hit my tummy
Me: Ouchhhh! Aiden, pain!!! *sambil pegang perut*
Aiden: Sorry mommy, your tummy pain???
Me: Yes! Be careful witt my tummy ok!
Aiden: Why? Is there a baby inside? I want a baby girl!
Me: No, not yet.
Aiden: but I want a baby girl! I already have a baby boy.
Abis gitu maen2 lagi, then tiba2 my tummy bunyi kenceng karena laper,
Aiden: Is that baby talking??!?!?!?
Di laen kesempatan…
Aiden: Mommy, I want a baby girl
Me: Then you pray…
Aiden: But I already pray for so longggggggg!!!
Me: Then, what did God say to you
Aiden: He said wait…
Aiden: Ya, He is still choosing the right one.
Me: *wah pinter anakku*… oh, so where is the baby girl now?
Aiden: in China…. *hahahahhahaha apa coba*
Scene: Gue lagi boboin Aiden ama Lyon dikamar mereka. Lagi pura2 bobo supaya anak2 cepet bobo. Tiba2 si Lyon ngelempar botol susunya ke muka gue. Sakit bok.
Aiden: Lyon!!! Dont do that! Mommy, is it painful? Let me pray for you…
Aiden: Do you feel better, Mommy?
Me: Yes, thank you, Aiden
Aiden: I’m kind to you, right, Mommy? Lyon is not being kind to you, but I’m always kind to you… *terus peluk gue*….
Scene: Aiden lagi gambar dia ama temennya, Maggie.
Aiden: I draw lots of hearts because I love Maggie!
(Aiden’s official name is Joel hehe)
Me: Wahhh that’s a lot of hearts! Why do you love Maggie?
Aiden: Yah I love her very very much. Even though she is always mad at me, I still love her.
Scene: Beberapa kali for a few days, Aiden bawain permen dari rumah buat temennya di sekolah. Biasanya kasih ke temennya yg bernama Giselle. But kali ini beda,…
Aiden: Mommy! Can I have sweet for Megan?
Me: ok. How about Giselle?
Aiden: Nah, not Giselle anymore. Now I give to Megan.
Aiden: Giselle doesn’t want to be my friend anymore. Now, my friend is Megan.
Me: Why she doesn’t want to be your friend?
Aiden: I dunno. She always change her mind.
Hahahahhaha. Oh my dear boy… yah memang gitu, cewe sering berubah2 moodnya. Well, he is learning dari kecil about ciptaan Tuhan yg namanya cewe wkkwkwk.
Me: So do u like Tante Inka?
Aiden: No, cannot! Tante Inka is a girl! I’m a boy! Boy can only like boy, girl can only like girl!
Me: But Mommy like Daddy. Daddy is a boy.
Aiden: Oh, but I cannot like Daddy. Daddy is different colour!
Me: What you mean??!??! *ngakak coz G emang kulitnya jauh lebih item dari kita*
Aiden: Daddy is black! Daddy is a black guy! We are white!
Sepertinya, udah saatnya gue jelasin about racism hahahah.
So yeah, udah lama sekali ya gue kagak update nih blog. Si Lyon uda ampir dua taon umurnya. And Aiden bentar lagi umur 6. Taun depan udah Primary School. So fast.
Btw, Lyon and Aiden beda kali sifatnya. Kalo Aiden sweet and sensitip. He cried easily. Hatinya lembut gitu deh.
Kalo si Lyon, cuek and berani. Berani kejar anjing and tarik2 buntutnya. Waktu itu ada anjing buldog yg matanya gede, ama dia disamperin and mau dicolok matanya.
Ada juga anjing Husky yg modelnya kayak srigala gede itu. Lyon pegang dua kuping tuh Husky and ditarik2 diputer2 dengan nikmat hahahahah.
Kmaren ada dua anjing brantem, eh ama dia disamperin, ga tau mo apa tuh anak berani banget. Padahal Aiden udah jauh2 ketakutan. Sampe akhirnya Lyon diangkat ama G dibawa jauh2, eh Lyonnya ngamuk. Apa lah ini anak, perlu didoain spirit of wisdom. Kalo Aiden, spirit of courage kwkwkw.
Nanti gedean, kayaknya Aiden belajar dari Lyon to be more courageous and bold. Lyon blajar gentleness and be cautious dari Aiden. Pas lah, maknya bisa nyantai dikit hihi.
Btw, gue mo share about being Aiden’s mommy. Yes, he is a sweet boy. But he’s not a sweet boy ALL the times. Boys will be boys, there are times he misbehaves and makes me upset. Kadang2 kesabaran gue wuih diuji abis2an because he likes to argue.
Beberapa minggu yang lalu, ada satu kontes dari Focus on The Family Singapore, kita harus jawab pertanyaan:
‘what do you love about your child?’
That question made me stop and really reflect on myself as a mom.
Dan ini jawaban gue di kontes itu…
The statement, ‘write what you love about your child.’ got me thinking quite hard. So what do I love abt him? it really made me stop to think and reflect. He drives me crazy sometimes, didn’t listen and all those misbehaving moments all quickly came to my mind.As he grows older, I face more challenges being his mom. He is only 6 years old now but sometimes I felt already at the end of my wits! I got upset quite often at him. So when I was asked that question, I took sometime to think again about why I love him. I think despite all the challenges, the disciplines, the arguments (yes, he can argue well at his age), I love him simply because he is my son. No one else is like him. I was entrusted to deliver him to this world and to be his mom and caretaker. I’m still learning to be a better mom and he is also learning how to cope with the world, his peers, his situations, his challenges.
I guess we both are still learning to be better person. I love him not because what he does for me or for others. I love him just because he is my son, no matter what he does or does not do.
Pas gue nulis that last paragraph, gue tiba2 sadar satu hal. That sounds so much like how God loves us! How He loves us, no matter what we do or what we did not do for Him. He loves us just because we are His sons and daughters. No reason needed, no question asked. Oh how sweet that kind of love is!
I need to learn more to have that kind of love for my own sons. We are all still learning. Being a parent sure make me learn more about how God loves as a parent.
How many times I, as a mom, made mistakes? How many times I raise my voice a little bit too loud? We made mistakes as parents, but God never make mistake. Not even once. We cannot be perfect parents. More often than not, we do not know what the right thing to say, the right thing to do at that very moment. We acted on impulse. We fall short.
But, I learned that…
Parenting is about relying on God to transform our child’s heart despite all of our mistakes.
So don’t beat yourself up, moms and dads! We are all on the same boat. God will help us to mend what are broken because of our mistakes. He knows our heart. He knows our limitation.
He is our Father, He will fix the things we can’t fix.
*Btw, gue menang loh kontesnya ahahahhahaha*