Dan…. saya keselek! karena first page google image, kebanyakan tuh poto dia bertelanjang dada, pamer2 otot. Waduh, kalo Aiden gedenya kayak gitu, bisa nangis darah mommy and daddynya wkkwkwk.

Gue liat2, perhatiin, simak2, teliti2. Sedikit sekaleeee persamaan Aiden with si Tae Yang.

Ayo mari kita simak bersama2 persamaannya dan perbedaan antara Aiden dan Tae Yang.

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Refer to the pics below.

Kiri: Tae Yang.
Kanan: of coz Aiden lah.. jgn sampe kebalik.

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Hmmmm, ok lah rambut and gayanya mirip…

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.Sipitnya mirip….

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Aiden of cos lebih cool…

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Aiden of coz lebih kiyut
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Jelas-jelas, Aiden lebih muantepppp ototnya…
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Menyunyuuu menyunyuuuuu…
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So??? Who do u think is much much much CUTER????????
*kabur sebelon dipentung daddynya Aiden* 

Mommy’s here

Guess what, u are now one year old loh! Yeay Yeay! Yes, u are no longer a baby, but a toddler!

Rasanya aneh manggil kamu a little boy, coz I always refer you as my baby.

Anyways, I dunno when u can read this post. Maybe I wont let u read my blog until u are a teenager. Whoah, ngebayangin u are a teenager aja gimanaaaa gitu ya. *awas loh, ga boleh coba2 pacaran! Kalo suka sama cewe, u have to pray and puasa and consult us ok? Tapi kalo masih teenager ya a big NO-NO, u know* :P

Mommy jadi inget2 waktu ngelahirin kamu. Mommy had to push selama 2 jam supaya kamu bisa keluar sampe muka mommy biru semua. Sempet shock waktu akhirnya kamu kuar. Shock karena, wah mommy punya anak! Padahal udah nunggu2 selama 9 bulan ya tapi rasanya masih aneh meluk kamu buat pertama kali. Stunned ngeliat something yang kecil (dan idup lagi!) actually belongs to both of us, ur mom and dad hihihi.

First few months, it was super tiring. Apalagi saat kamu suka ngamuk2 karena udah bau tangan banget. I remember those days, when mommy had to rock u hard supaya berhenti nangis. Bobo pun harus digendong sampe mommy ketiduran di sofa with u didalem kain gendongan. Bisa sampe jam 4 pagi. And kalo ngamuk, cuma bisa diem kalo dikasih lagu rock praise and worship. Dulu kamu berbulan2 dengernya lagu “Yahweh”nya Michael W Smith terussssss. Karena ada anak2 kecil Africa nya disono. Pasti berhenti nangis kalo liat itu. Yah sampe skarang sih kamu masih suka nonton DVD Bang Michael. Kasian tuh si abank ampir tiap hari dalam setaon bikin konser buat kamu

As times went by, kamu smakin gede and ndut. Skarang udah kurusan karena udah aktif, tapi tetep aja tambah berat. I dunno until when I still have the strength to carry you. Dan skarang kamu punya leher!! Dulu sangking ndutnya, ga keliatan tuh leher.

Mommy juga discovered a lot of things about u. Amazed juga meskipun kamu cuma seorang baby, tapi udah keliatan karakter dan keunikannya. Like…

- kamu suka miring2in kepala kalo nonton. Dan selalu miring ke kanan
- kamu cinta banget ama dengkul mommy. Kalo liat my dengkul, pasti dicium2 dah dipeluk2. Ini dengkul nak, bukan buat nyusu…
- ga tau knapa, kamu juga suka cium tembok. Kalo bangun pagi, liat tembok disamping ranjang, pasti senyum2, berdiri dan cium itu tembok. Itu tembok nak, bukan nyokap loe.
-u also like to kiss kaca. Kalo liat mirror, dah pasti mo deket2 and kiss it pake tampang mesra segala, ur eyes jadi sayu2 gitu
- dan kamu kalo nangis atau cranky, bisa diem when mommy said, “thank u Lord Jesus bla bla bla..” alias didoain. Sometimes malah harus dibahasa roh-in baru bener2 diem. Sampe orang2 yg liat pada bilang, kamu emang baby unik.
- tiap kali mao bobo malem, mommy selalu doain kamu and setiap kali mommy mulai bahasa roh, kamu pasti mendekati and peluk mommy. Dan selama mommy bahasa roh-in kamu, kamu nemplok aja didada mommy sampe kamu ketiduran.  Mommy treasure banget those moments. Liat kamu nguap2 didada mommy, sampe akhirnya ngorok while mommy elus2 rambutmu and berbahasa roh. That’s priceless.

Yah kamu emang unik. But that’s what makes u special. Waktu kamu masih in my tummy, mommy always prayed that u are mature beyond your years. And tepat ternyata, karena muka kamu boros skali, ga kayak tampang baby

Sorry yah kalo Mommy sometimes ga sabar sama kamu. Apalagi kalo kamu udah jerit2. I realized I’m not a perfect mom. Banyak sekali kekurangannya, apalagi as a wife for your dad hehe. But I want to learn to be a supermom (and a superwife), masih jauhhhh sih, but I want to learn. Mommy terinspirasi dengan banyak supermoms out there. If they can do it, mommy juga pasti bisa. But to reach to that point, I hope u can be sabar with mommy too. We both learn together ok?

Sometimes Mommy wish that I can stay at home taking care of u, instead of being a working mom. But untuk sekarang keadaan belum memungkinkan. Yah Mommy knows that God lagi prepare mommy kesana. He knows the best time and my capacity as a mom. I’m trying and learning to be the best mom for u, so sabar sama mommy, ya?

Tiap malem mommy bacain Psalm 91 dan Galatia for u. Karena kamu udah harus mulai belajar the fruits of the spirit. U are no longer bounded by the nature of your flesh. Kamu suka liatin mommy kalo I started to speak and pray to you about the spirit. Terus senyum2 ga jelas.

Maaf ya tadi malem mommy disciplined u. Itu speaker bukan buat maenan nak. And udah saatnya kamu bobo and stop playing. And kamu nangis sejadi2nya. It hurts to see u nangis sampe kayak gitu and ga mao berhenti. But when I said sorry to u coz I had to discipline u, u finally stopped crying and fell asleep on my chest. Yes, it hurt to see u crying hard like that, but it is for your own good. Mommy now had to start disciplining u. Karena udah mulai keliatan ur flesh. That’s why mommy skarang tiap malem bacain Fruit of the Spirit to u. That you belong to Christ Jesus, u are directed by the Spirit not by your flesh.

Yah mommy sempet feel quilty disciplined u like that kmaren. And Mommy smakin ngerasa that I need the grace and wisdom from Him to learn how to be a mom. The best mom for u.  How to teach u, how to correct u. Mommy smakin convicted to pursue God lagi, karena without Him in my life, I will be clueless. I won’t know how to teach and impart a lot of values in you. But He is the Best Parent. And He can teach me many things.

Yes, my hope is in Him.

Being a mom is never easy but you are all worth it.

Mommy loves u, Aiden!

And here’s a little video of u. Yes, u didn’t cry when u were born, only cried softly just to let us know that u were ok. Just like in my dream

Emang lagi ngapain aja sih gue? Hmmm banyak lah yg dikerjain. Post ‘How I know Part 7′nya udah dibuat, tapi selalu lupa buat kasih liat G for his approval HAUEhuAEHAE.

Anyway, emang banyak kerjaan sih akhir2 ini. Yg paling jelas sih kita baru pindahan rumah. Nah sesuai dengan judulnya blog posting kali ini, gue mo do thanksgiving karena luar biasa bantuan Tuhan. Sampe kemehek2 guenya kwkwkwkw.

Kita pindah kerumah dengan harga yg sama dari rumah sebelumnya. Kita rent $2000/month. Dan gede rumah baru dua kali lipat dari rumah lama. And di Toa Payoh lagi! How we love Toa payoh HAEUhaUEHAE. Which is daerah segitu with that kind of rental price with that kind of space, sangatlah murah. And amazingnya kita ga perlu bayar agent fee. Biasanya kan di spore kalo soal menyewa rumah pasti ada yg namanya agent fee. And itu feenya half of the rental (one time only). Jadi kita mestinya bayar $1000 bok ke agentnya. But Praise God, agentnya bilang kita ga usah bayar karena dia udah dibayarin ama ownernya.

Selain itu,  rumah kita kan unfurnished. Makanya bisa dapet murah. Ga ada washing machine, fridge etc etc. Kalo ranjang sih kita ada, but electronic2 gitu kan penting and kita berarti harus beli. And guess what, karena agentnya sreg ama kita (keluarga with baby), dia bantuin kita beli all the necessary stuff to fill up the house. By kasih kita duit $450!! Buat beli2.. whuHAEUhAUEAE. Gila, mana ada agent sebaik itu. Kita ga bayar dia agent fee, and malah dia yg kasih kita $450 from his own pocket to buy fridge, washing machine. And itu barang2nya buat kita lagi! Hebat kan Tuhan!

Tuhan emang luar biasa penyediaannya. Kita emang lagi serettt bgt financialnya. If only u knew how seret HAUEhAUEHAUHE. But I learned from G, yg notabene udah ngalamin ga makan etc etc karena ga ada duit when he was in mission field for few years last time, but selalu ada berkat Tuhan buat dia. Dia ajarin gue untuk selalu menabur, even when kita ga punya. Malah lebih saat kita ga punya. Dia sering menabur lah, meski kita seret, gue belajar buat memberkati orang laen juga. And yup, berkat Tuhan terus mengalir buat kita.

Ada saat2 yg kita udah kritis banget, tiba2 ada yg bless us with things. Ga selalu dalem bentuk financial. A lot other things.

Gue pernah bingung, gimana nih beli susu Aiden. Udah tau susu baby itu muahalnya amit2. And seminggu bisa abis satu kaleng lebih. And praise God, gue dapet source bisa beli susu dengan harga yg jauh lebih murah dari supermarket.  And tiba2, out of the blue banget, ada salah satu kenalan kita ngasih kita susu berkaleng2. Companynya produce that milk (which we never knew! I thought his company was just a pharmacy company), and karena udah abis taon, mereka count stocks and ternyata overstock. Mereka harus clear all those yg expirynya early next year. Jadi ya udah deh dikasih2 ke staffnya. And salah satunya adalah temen kita ini and amazingly milk powdernya mereknya sama dengan apa yg dipake Aiden! And ga maen2, ngasihnya about 30-40 kaleng ada kali HAUEhAUEhAUEHAE.  Hebat kan Tuhan!

And ga nyangka juga, ternyata gue bisa dapet job as editornya Benaiah Books. Kerjaannya ya ngedit2 bukunya tuh. Bukunya bisa didapet di Christian Book Fair di CiputraMall tgl 15-20 Nov 2011, with harga promo. Dateng ya and beli buku2nya. Gue dah baca coz gue kan yg edit HAUEhAUEAE, bagus buku2nya. *iklan bentar* hihihi

Buku terbaru mereka judulnya: Sun Stand Still and Christian Atheist. Dua2nya bagus. Sun Stand Still ttg iman yg kita harus kejar. Banyak orang Kristen yg tau iman, tapi most of us ga tau kalo ada lagi iman yg namanya ‘iman yg berani’. Baca deh, it will motivate you even more untuk punya faith yg meraih impossible things.

Satu lagi, judulnya Christian Atheist. Buku ini menampar banyak orang Kristen, termasuk saya. Every one of us, as a Christian, ada salah satu sisi dimana sebenernya kita itu Atheist. Percaya Tuhan tapi idup or pikiran kadang2 kayak Tuhan itu ga ada wkwkkw. Very recommended to read. Gue ditabok2 sampe pingsan ama ini buku HAUEhUAEHAE. I like this style. Ada pembaca2 blog gue bilang, blog gue itu bagus tapi menampar2 orang yg baca hUAEHUAEHuAHE. Sama lohhhh… saya suka ditampar2 gitu wkwkkwkwk

Go back to topic,

Yah pokoknya Tuhan tau lah apa yg kita butuhin.  Aiden butuh cloth diapers lagi, eh ada orang yg mao beliin diapers buat his beddey HAEUhAUEhAE. Same person lagi wkwkkwkw. Thanks ya, u know who u are

Intinya, kebaikan Tuhan ga terhitung. So many sampe gue lupa mo nulis apa lagi wkwkkwkw. Even kita mengalami masa2 sulit, I wouldnt trade this situations with anything. Coz we can taste His goodness and His provision yg dateng secara ajaib. Itu yg namanya bener2 bergantung ama Tuhan.

But there are moments when His help didnt come. But then we still keep the faith and still rejoice and continue being faithful in Him. Meskipun keliatannya His help never came or too late, but it is never too late. Tuhan ga bantu pun ada alasannya. What important for Him, is our heart attitude, our worship attitude. Tuhan mao bantu kapan pun pasti bisa donk. Masa dia biarin anak2nya mati kelaparan. Ga mungkin kan. But what He wants to see is our heart attitude. Apa kita jadi kesel ama orang, jadi kepaitan ama orang, karena ga ada yg bantuin? OF coz not.

If it seems His help doesnt come, he must have something else in mind. Entah itu help as in duit buat ngelakuin pelayananNya or anything lah. Most likely, bantuan ga dateng coz Dia lagi dealing with us. Our attitude, or simply becoz it’s not His time yet.  Gue tau some people yg marah2 or ngotot pingin dibiayain buat pelayanan ke luar negri, and ‘maksa’ minta di support buat misinya dan menggunakan segala cara untuk bisa pegi (even kalo bisa illegal sekalian). But sebenernya mereka ga sadar kalo Tuhan ga buka in jalan berarti memang belon saatNya hehehe. Kalo emang udah saat Tuhan mah, donkey juga bisa kasih loe duit HAUEhaUEHAUHEaE

So yah, yg penting adalah heart attitude and when u said u trust Him, …how far do you trust Him?

Kita semua masih belajar. Gue juga, gue belajar banyak dari G.

But overall, Yeah, God is good. Tiba2 bisa ada orang lain lagi yg punya beban for our family, dia mao menabur di keluarga kita every month for a year. Hebat kan Tuhan!

Yup, it’s true. Yg penting adalah Heart attitude…

Seperti yg Lia bilang, kita emang financial very tight, tapi jgn salah, ga berarti kita hidupnya sengsara dan ga bisa makan2 enak. Masih bisa kok makan cereal prawn and lamb steak. Kita bikin sendiri di rumah. Jauh lebih enak coz makannya bisa sambil nonton tipi, angkat kaki di sofa kayak abang2, and sampe belepotan pake tangan HAUEhAUEHAE.

I’m writing this not to say that kita butuh financial help or something along that line. That we want to avoid. Karena that’s not the point. And I hope ga ada yg salah tangkep ya! ehheheheh. I’m writing this becoz I want to write Thanksgiving Thursday (following Shinta’s blog. Sorry non, males ubrek2 cara ngelinknya hehehehe) karena pekerjaan Tuhan luar biasa wownya. All credit to Him!!

Account FB nya si G di hacked ama orang yang tidak bertanggung jawab *lah iya lah mana ada hacker yg bertanggung jawab* wkwkkwkw.

Nah G ini kan jarang login FB nya. And kmaren pas login, ga bisa masuk2. Dibilangnya invalid melulu. And yahoo emailnya juga sama. Then dia pas bilang gue, ya gue liat2 tuh accountnya and utak atik sini situ dan akhirnya bisa dapet balik both his yahoo and FB account.

And gue pun melanjutkan perjalanan ke kamar mandi coz mo mandi. Pas lagi asik2nya mandi, eh si G gedor2 pintu dengan semangat. And dia bilang, “saaaaayyy, beneran ada yang ngehack FB aku!! And dia minta2 uang lewat message!! Dia message2in orang2 gituuu”

Gue ngakak … wkwkwkkwkw. And penasaran of coz. Abis mandi, langsung gue meluncur ke depan komp and gue baca tuh msg2. Ya elah, sebel gue bacanya.

Coz guess what, dia pilih beberapa orang. I think about 8-10 people yg dia choose to msg. And this hacker orang Indo, pake bahasa Indo, udah gitu kayak chatting gitu, ngajak ngobrol dulu lewat msg. Nanya apa kabar bla bla. Anddddd pake kata-kata ‘shalom’, ‘puji tuhan’, ‘amin’.. bikin bete ga tuh!! hAUEHuAEHUAE

For example ini convo yg gue copy and paste:

Ruth (temen kita):
gimana keluarga kak? Baik2 aja kan?

G (alias si hacker):
 puji tuhan sehat. Kamu gimana?

bla bla bla… and dia langsung nanya if she has a rekening BCA and minta tolong transfer duit ke acc BCA lain coz kalo dari Singapore ga bisa langsung masuk. Si Ruth bersedia membantu and:

Ruth: mao transfer berapa kak?

G: 4 juta

Ruth: maaf kak, kalo segitu ruth ga ada. Maklumlah… xixixixix

G: heheeh belon ada, bukan ga ada. Amin.

WKAKAKKAKAKA bete ga sih bacanya!!!!! HAEUAUEhAEuAHE  dasar hacker sok rohani abis.  Dan dia juga ada msg orang2 lain kan. Basa basi kayak gitu juga, and disaat si victim bilang ga ada duit, langsung si hacker ga jawab lagi wkkwkwk. And dia sempet msg Tante Ninik, our pastor’s wife yg udah elderly and sedikit lugu hehehe. And ama tante ditanggepin. Sampe si tante beneran cek duitnya di BCA ada berapa lewat ibanking. And mao minta tolong anaknya yg di Indo kalo duitnya ga cukup. Coz si hacker beralasan butuh duit hari ini coz tante nya yg di Indo mo dioperasi hari itu juga, kalo kirim duit dari Singapore kan ga bisa masuk langsung hari ini. And he/she promised that dia akan transfer duit dari Singapore langsung ke account BCA tante.

Nah tante Ninik cek and ternyata duit di BCA nya tinggal berapa ratus ribu doank wkwkkwkwk. And si hacker langsung, “oh ga usah tante…” HAEUhAUEhUAE. Wah bener2 dijaga Tuhan tuh. Coba kalo tante ada duitnya and dia langsung transfer since she is a little trusting wkwkwkwk.

Dan praise God ga ada yg kena tipu coz most ga ada duit segitu HAUEhAUEHAEa.  And ada temen kita yg langsung bilang ga bisa bantu, and saat kita ngobrol ama dia, dia udah curiga coz ngapain si G minta tolong begituan, ga make sense gitu lah heheheh.

And ini hacker juga msg in si Ps. Daniel Hanafi!!! HUAEHUAEHuAHE gile! my mission role model juga diotak atik!!! wkwkkwkwkw. Untung Ps. Danny ga login jadi dia ga jawab2.  Uh, berani2nya isengin my papa mission!!!! *tendang*

And yg paling kocak si hacker msg in Genevieve, one jayus-est girl we have in church.

Hacker: apa kabar?
Gen: Ko G? So random! hahahahahahaha

And hacker pun menghilang wkwkkwkwkkw. Bagus lah Gen, your unikness bisa mengusir hal-hal yg tidak diinginkan HAUEhAUEHAE.

So, conclusion yg gue dapetin adalah ini hacker salah satu orang yg di friend list gue and G. Our mutual friend. So guys, be careful. It can be beneran someone yg kita kenal, or stranger. But I think someone yg kita kenal deh coz kita jarang add strangers. Parah juga kalo temen kita sendiri. So shameful, pake kata2 rohani segala itu loh.

And my guess, dia crack G’s email password coz gampang bgt sih hehehhehe. Then dari situ dia reset the FB password to his/her password. So guys, make sure your password is a secure one. And make your password yang got nothing to do with your personal life karena bisa di guess. Thats how G’s account was hacked hehehehe. Kalo kenal kita pasti bisa ngecrack the password. Makanya thats why I said this person pasti kenal kita.

Yah, yg pasti nanti si hacker akan membayar harga dari action2nya And ga mustahil, this hacker is reading this blog too.

Ok deh ganti topik skarang.

Since ada beberapa yg katanya penasaran pingin liat wajah2 kita, alias me and G… ya wes, ini potonya yaaaaa..

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Liat deh, gayanya Aiden so charming disini, like saying, "Hi Ladies, lagi ngapain?"

Dan below adalah poto disaat kita belon merit. Just letting u see bedanya kita sesudah merit dan sebelon. Yg jelas kita lebih kurus lah yaoooo wkwkkwkw…

me - my bro - G

Sebenernya si G itu agak item kulitnya. (Can I say tall, dark and handsome? HEuhAEuhAEUhAE ) Nah sering kali kalo G bawa si Aiden jalan, pasti banyak orang yg ngeliatin. Coz bingung anaknya kok putih padahal bapaknya item. Sampe ada beberapa kali strangers or orang yg baru kenal ama G, pada nanya, “oh your wife is Chinese? No wonder ur boy is fair…” wkwkkwkkww.

And tante/ibu2/anak2 di greja sering komen ke gue, “untung ya si Aiden nurutin warna kulit loe, putih…” HAEUhAUEhAUEH. Kata G, “wah diskriminasi warna kulit” HAEUhAUEhUAE

Ga sedikit yg terheran2 ngeliat Aiden kok bisa putih gitu. Minggu kmaren, si Aiden ada disebelah Hemi, and Hemi berkomentar, “ih ga adil deh. Bapak gue item, nyokap gue putih. Kok guenya item sih!” … AHEUHAEUhAEA

Btw, lucunya, gue tuh dari dulu ga begitu suka cowo putih. Bagi gue kayak pucet gitu ah, kurang gagah . Pas waktu akhirnya Tuhan bukain jodoh gue G, baru ngeh, eh bener juga ya dapetnya kok kulitnya ga putih.. tapi sebenernya kebablasan item, padahal maonya sih yang coklat alias tan aja.. AHEUHAEuHAEAE. But God knows the best hehehehe

END OF PART 1

Untuk part-part selanjutnya… tunggu yeee. Lagi sibuk nih hehehehehe..

When we hope in what God has promised (commanded), our hope is the same as certainty. God’s help is never too late. When it seems like His help didn’t come, let our hearts still be full of praise and joy, as we might not be aware that God had actually given His help in another way… in His way. Don’t let worry overtake u.Trust Him, for He is the God of the Universe. He knows how to help u.

In a few days kita sekeluarga bakal pegi Cambodia for church mission trip. First time nih Aiden naek pesawat. Agak deg2an juga. Harus didoain terus supaya ga rewel or teriak2 di pesawat wkwkwkwk. Dia skarang dah bisa teriak2 melengking kalo lagi overly happy.

Karena gue lagi males nulis panjang2 at the moment. Gue kasih aja ya poto2 Aiden hehehehehe…

Dan beberapa hari yg lalu, kita para bloggers/writers berkumpul untuk ketemuan ama Seanie nya Shinta, yg mumpung lagi transit di Singapore for a few days. Jadi ada 3 babies saat itu. Noel, Aiden and Seanie. Udah pasti gue akan bikin komiknya. Tapi ntar ya, sehabis gue balik dari Cambodia.

But, here is the preview of the komik of our pertemuan wkwkwkwkkw…

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SCENE: While watching Sesame Street DVD…
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Mama Noel-Mama Aiden-Mama Seanie-Grace-Viryani-Phenny

Note: Seanie is obsessed with foot hihihihi 

Stay tune for the komik…

CHAPTER 13: THE DAYS OF THE OTHER WOMAN

Weits! Title chapternya mengerikan!! HAEUhauEhaE.

Beberapa hari after kita pulang dari retret, si G menghadap seorang hamba Tuhan yg udah ngedoain G since he first saw G kira2 taon 2006. Dan istrinya itu juga lg doain gue. Ya intinya Tuhan taruh beban dihati mereka untuk doain G and me. Padahal waktu itu gue ama G belon ada apa2 and mereka masih ga tau kalo Tuhan ternyata masangin kita berdua at the end. Nah istrinya ini bergerak di karunia nabi. But as time went by mereka slalu updated lah ttg kita dan masih terus doain kita berdua.

Soooo, si G akhirnya cerita ama mereka that….

Yup! There was another woman in the hood! wkwkwkwk. So intinya, si G menemukan cewe laen sebut aja si L. And mereka deket banget and saling mendoakan. AND SEMUANYA TANPA SEPENGETAHUAN GUE!!! HAHAHAHA

Istri hamba Tuhan tersebut, (panggil aja Tante H) kasih kabar itu ke gue, and gue termehek2 kaget donk!!!! Mana mungkin lah yao ga kaget! Gue kira kita masih pray bareng!

Nah yg lucunya, gue tuh kenal ama itu cewe. Dia baru dateng ke greja kita. Sebelon gue tau berita menggenaskan tadi, suatu hari gue pelayanan di kebaktian, tiba2 ada altar call and that cewe maju kedepan. And ga tau knapa, gue itu tergerak untuk doain dia. So gue maju loh. Somehow my heart said ‘ini cewe kayaknya ada something deh. Ga tau apa. But something attract me to this girl’.. so ya makanya gue maju doain dia. And pas gue doain, doa yg keluar adalah ‘Now is not the time, just wait and be patient.’ … MANA GUE TAU DIA TERNYATA LAGI DOAIN AND DEKET AMA G!!! HAHAHAHAHA… gue kira ya doanya ttg bukan saatnya si cewe ini tinggal di Spore karena dia kan mao cari jalan supaya bisa stay disini (setau gue)

Lah trus waktu Tante H kasih tau gue itu cewenya. WOW, langsung gue ngeh… ohhhhhh, brarti mantep juga nih Tuhan bilang ke gue harus doain itu cewe hehehe.

So intinya gini cerita G ke tante H and suaminya:

Si G mao sama si L, mereka udah saling mendoakan dan saling suka. And G suka ama si L karena dia tuh worship leader, jago nyanyi, jago masak, anak pendeta dan masih ada hal2 yg laen yg ntar aja gue jelasin karena seru hehe. And tante H tetep bilang kalo L bukan dari Tuhan buat G. But G bersikeras pilih L karena sebenernya dia itu mao lari dari doain gue and ga mao doain gue. And also menurut G, si L ini a very good candidate for him yg bisa mendukung his pelayanan. Lagian, kan si L and G sama2 sudah melayani di gereja, masa ga boleh together.  Karena tante H tetep bilang that L is not from God, si G akhirnya bilang, “ok deh, aku akan bawa si L ketemu tante dan om. You will see that I’m choosing the right one”

So, si tante ceritain semua itu ke gue. And she said, “kamu doa ya Nel, we will meet them tomorrow night…”

JENG JENG JENG….

Sooooo, gimana dengan kondisi gue setelah gue tau smua itu?????

OF COZ SEMPET PANASSSS!!! HAHAHAHA but after that….

nyantaaaaiiiiiii wkwkwk.. asli loh… gue ga gusar lagi, sakit ati, etc etc. Bener2 kekuatan Tuhan ngalir luar biasa. Karena Tuhan udah kasih gue strong confirmation that G is for me. But ga tau, hati gue tenang banget. My spirit calm gitu deh.. ga blingsatan wkwkkwkw. And yg lucunya mereka ga kasih tau gue kalo mreka udah mendekati status pacaran, and si cewe itu tau kalo gue and G itu sebenernya lg berdoa bareng.

Now then I understand knapa si Pastor Rajan doain gue ‘do not be disturbed’ sampe 3 kali… wkwkwkw.. Trus tiba2 gue come across one article di blog temen. Article prophecy buat saat itu. Dari prophet Chuck Pierce.

Dia bilang gini summarynya:

‘ The Lord says: I will shadow you and bring u thru the confusion u’ve been in. Be ready for this is  the day that I will call you quickly and change ur circumstance quickly. Don’t go to sleep. Sanctify your hearts and be ready to defend the hope that is within u. The enemy has come and put u on the defensive. Do not back up and do not come into agreement with the enemy who has tried to squeeze hope out and cause your faith shield to fall. I will assign you in the night watch so by noonday the terror has passed you!’ 

And ternyata pas banget kata2nya. God is saying to me to defend the hope that is within me. And nightwatch yg dia bilang diatas itu ternyata gue disuruh bangun subuh2 buat doa. Beneran gue 3 hari berturut2 dibangunin Tuhan pas jam 4 pagi buat doa perang. HAHAHAHA. Gue ada tulis tuh di blog ttg peperangannya di sini… And the article yg prophecy itu gue juga taruh linknya di sono… MESTI BACA BLOG GUE YG ITU YA!! karena sangat2 keren Tuhan disono hehehe. Karena itu doa peperangan antara my destiny, G’s and L’s… heheheheh

Trus the next day, gue dengerin kotbah Joel Oesteen. Ini adalah hari where Tante H, suaminya, G and L bertemu delapan mata. HARI YG SANGAT MENENTUKAN!!! wkwkwkkw

And gue dikuatin abis2an ama kotbah si Oesteen.

Ada kata2nya yg bilang begini:

Whenever things get difficult, the intensity has been turned up, that’s a sign that you are close to your victory. When those lies start bombarding your mind, u are tempted to get discouraged but it’s not the time to give up. That is the time to dig your heels in! Put on new attitude, you are close to your victory!! 

The reason the intensity has been turned up is becoz the enemy knows that your victory is coming close. When u keep doing what is right, keep hoping, keep believing, before long he will give that final push, you will see the situations turn around and u will see that promise come to pass. It’s like a woman giving birth. You are about to give birth to that PROMISE!!

And this is what I wrote in my diary:

This difficulty is meant to harm me, is meant to destroy me but I know God will use it for my advantage. I’ve come too far to stop now, I’ve been thru so much to back down. I realize the intensity has been turned up is becoz I’m about the give birth to my dreams!

Wakakakaka… wah pokoknya Tuhan kasih kekuatan terus.. dapat article lg ttg push, press and pursue like a woman giving birth.. wkwkkwwk Pokoknya luar biasa lah Tuhan iki…

Yah pokoknya hari ini gue tenang. Meskipun di sebuah cafe nan jauh disono lagi ada 4 orang yg akan menentukan masa depanku… *ceilehh* 

So after their meeting, si tante update gue:

Si G tetep bersikeras that dia mau sama L. Tante H and suami said straight to L that she is not from God for G. L kaget donk, abis mereka ngomongnya straight banget. And L masih ga bisa terima pertama kali. Kok kayaknya ini 2 hamba Tuhan maksa banget wkwkwkw. Tapi si L orangnya dewasa, jadi dia dengerin baik2. Dan tante H langsung tanpa babibu bernubuat ama si L HAUEhaUEhauhe. Dia bilang ttg panggilan si L yg sebetulnya bukan di Spore. Dan panggilannya bener2 beda ama G. So to cut the story short, at the end of meeting, G and L masih sepertinya ga terima. Tapi ga marah2 gitu la, mereka bilang mereka akan terus doain about this. And tante H kasih conclusion ke mereka, ‘”yah kalo kalian masih ga percaya kalo ini bukan kehendak Tuhan. Liat deh. Pasti orang tua kalian ga setuju ama hubungan kalian. Tuhan pasti ngomong lewat ortu kalian.”

So G and L terima itu and mereka akan tanya ortu mereka. Si G and L ngerasa a bit lega coz selama ini ortu mereka ga pernah ngurusin yg namanya relationship anak2nya. Ya mo pacaran or merit ama sapa aja, terserah anaknya lah. So mereka yakin kalo keluarga mereka akan setuju2 aja.

And ternyata si L itu harus balik Indo the next day. Harus kembali ke ortunya, but dia akan berusaha balik lagi ke Singapore. But good timing, isnt it? Ternyata emang dia harus ketemu ortunya gitu.

So days passed….. gue anteng2 aja tunggu berita. Nunggu Tuhan bekerja. Setau gue, si G nungguin telpon dari L yg udah di Indo. Kabar ttg ortunya bilang apa. (Gue diupdate in terus ama Tante H coz gue and G ga ada kontak sama skali hehe).

Setelah beberapa hari, si G nunggu2 si L ga ada kabar, si G ga sabar and dia akhirnya nelpon ortunya yg di Bandung. Ortunya G sendiri.

Si G cerita ttg si L. And guess what, mereka ga setuju dia ama L!!! Si G shock bgt coz ga pernah skali pun mereka ngurusin soal beginian. Biasanya juga cuek bebek. But this time, parents nya sangat strongly disagree dia ama si L. Bingung kan!

Eh trus lucunya, malemnya gue ngimpi, ortu G menyambut gue dengan ramah banget masuk kerumah mereka HAHAHAHA… what is that, Lord!!! kwkwkwk

And 2 days later… jeng jeng jeng… si tante tiba2 sms:

‘Nel, great news. Minggu malem kita dinner ya with G. Dia sudah mau melangkah. L sudah melihat sendiri bahwa hubungan mereka banyak kendala. Ortunya G tidak setuju sama L, tetapi mereka setuju dengan si Nelly yg sudah lama berdoa untuk G. Ortunya L juga tidak setuju dengan si G. So congrats ya! Prepare for Sunday nite. Like I said, this week, kamu sudah terima.’

I was like WHOAAATTTTT WHOAAAATTTT WHOATTTTT… AEHuAHEuaHEaE. Gile! Tuhan kereeennnn! Yg gue herannya, wong ortu si G ga kenal sama skali ama gue! Cuma tau kalo kita saling doain pas kapan ari itu. But how come mereka sampe ngomongnya begituuuuuuuuu!!!! Tuhan emang luar biasa!! And gue ga perlu berbuat apa2 gitu loh!!!!!! Beneran cuma ongkang2, nguatin diri dengan Firman, doa peperangan subuh2 itu and just sit back and relax! wkwwkkwkw. And and yg amazingnya begini…

U know during this specific week, dimana Tuhan suruh gue berperang in spirit and prayer… Tuhan ternyata lagi ngomong secara luar biasa ke G. Confirmation after confirmation that I’m the one. Total 4 konfirmasi during that week.

Ini yg gue bilang God’s interventions.

Pertama:
G lagi dengerin lecture di bible skulnya. Topiknya ttg ‘Gift of Holy Spirit’ ehhh tiba2 lecturernya bisa melenceng ngomongin ttg pasangan idup. And he said “if you are chasing your own will, you will destroy your destiny…” something like that. Si G ketemplak lah.

Kedua: ga gitu inget, but Holy Spirit bilang dia similar to point one tadi.

Ketiga:
Si G doa ama Tuhan, kalo beneran I’m from Him. Tuhan harus ngomong lewat ortunya. And guess what, ga gitu lama, ortunya G, yg notabene ga pernah nelpon G slama dia di Spore karena ongkosnya mahal. Tiba2 telpon!! And cuma buat ngomong apa coba… Ngomong gini nih, “G, kita ga setuju kamu sama si L, kamu sama si Nelly aja.”.. udah. Ngomong itu doank…. hahahahahah…

Keempat:
Si G lagi berdoa sama prayer partnernya, seorang hamba Tuhan dari Uganda yg luar biasa. Lagi doa dipantai tuh mereka berdua. *romantis amat* And biasanya G kan pasti matiin hp kalo lagi doa. Eh saat itu dia kayak lupa matiin and tiba2 telpon masuk. Si G angkat and yg nelpon ternyata salah satu temen pelayanan kita sebut aja si R.

R tiba2 bilang gini, “eh G, gue nih sebenernya lagi saat teduh, lagi doa. Then ga tau knapa kok Tuhan suruh gue telpon loe and kasih tau loe kalo loe ama cewe yg salah. Tuhan bilang, kamu sama Nelly. Emang ada apa ya kamu sama Nelly?”

NAH LOH!! Padahal ini cewe ga tau apa2 ttg gue ama G. And dia tuh temen baeknya si L!

HAHAHAHA. Mantap kan Tuhan berkerja! Like what Ps. Rajan prophesied to me saat retret itu, he said, “HE will finish it”

Sooooo, akhirnya G nyerah! And hancur deh hatinya wkwkwkkwwk. Sampe bilang ke suami tante H, “ok pastor, saya skarang ngerti kehendak Tuhan apa. Saya akan melepaskan L. Tapi beri saya waktu untuk bisa melepaskan dia.”

Awwwww… pas gue dikasih tau itu ama Tante, sedih juga sih gue. Kasian gitu loh, sempet kasian lah. Coz ya namanya mereka berdua uda saling suka, but Tuhan says no. Ya gimana donk. Si G kan ga suka ama gue, tapi Tuhan bilang harus ama gue wkwkwkkw. Gue sih sendiri sudah mentok. Udah bukan masalah suka ga suka. Lah Tuhan udah kasih His Sovereign Will! Mo gimana lagi gue!! Pokoknya yg namanya perasaan udah ga tau deh mo dikemanain. Udah ga ada lagi yg namanya pake perasaan2. Jalanin aja lah maunya Tuhan opo. It is the best for me anyway… meskipun gue tau si G ga mao ama gue, dan terpaksa mao ama gue karena Tuhan udah says so. GA ADA ROMANTISNYA YA!!! HAHAHAHA… Yo wes lah Lord… yok opo maneh. Sebenernya kalo dipikir2, hal ini mencoreng harga diri gue sbagai cewe. Tapi gue and G udah stuck in His sovereign will. Setiap kali gue mo lepasin G, Tuhan selalu arahin gue kembali untuk tetep doain G despite all circumstances. Gue udah lay down my harga diri to God. What I know is I must obey Him and nothing else.

And the next day, I came across this in my devotional..
‘Once the lesson of faith has been learned, it is an everlasting possession and an eternal fortune gained’

Yes, this is definitely a lesson of faith that I learned.

And dibawah tulisan tadi, gue tulis ‘IT IS WORTH THE WAIT’

CHAPTER 14: THE COMMITMENT

So, a few days after that, si tante, suaminya, gue and G bertemu. Tegang donk. After ngomongin apa gue lupa, pokoknya abt us. Akhirnya conclusionnya si G mau commit ama gue. So, si tante bilang,“‘ok mulai hari ini kalian official ya!”, dan me and G shake hands… HAHAHAHAHA .. GA ADA ROMANTISNYA KAN!!! HAHAHA

So di tanggal 25/4/09, di restoran Ayam Penyet Novena, kita berjabatan tangan dan kita official…

HAHAHAHA
Gue bisa ngerasa sih si G berat banget rasanya untuk ngelakuin ini, but he got no choice. Btw, apa sih yg membuat dia mati2an ga mao ama gue? Ga bisa totally nyalahin dia sih, coz dibalik smua itu ada reasonnya. Apakah itu? Apa karena gue kurang cantik? kurang bisa nyanyi? kurang bisa masak? kalo nyapu ga lurus? wkwkwkwk. Ceritanya bersambung yaaaaa… HAHAHAHA

Gue ga nyangka that responds nya bakal sampe membludak begitu. My visitor numbers langsung doubled for a few days. Anak2 pada share etc.

But then, I feel the urge to nambahin that posting. I like this comment from someone anonymous.  Ga kenal sopo wkwkkwk, but he brought up a very valid point and I feel that this has to be highlighted in my blog to complement my previous posting…

That ‘Boy’ nulis begini:

In my opinion.. For this articke to fully bear its fruit is if both sexes read it with humility..
For the guys, don’t try and show off how ‘godly’ u are just to impress.. But let ur godliness show itself thru the testing of ur character.. Also, set this standard against no one else but urself.. Its too easy for us to use this as an excuse to judge other men..

For the ladies, while i understand ur frustation in finding the godly men, i find that it is a dangerous thing to ask “where are the godly men?” if not accompanied by the continuous testing of ur own character.. Dont let pride be found in ur heart in Expecting others to be more ‘godly’ then urself..

Yep saya sangat2 setuju dengan komen bapak Boy. Article yg gue post kmaren ttg 5 pillars of manhood, for me, it should talk more about the readers.  Maksud gue gini,..

Saat para cowo baca itu, mereka jadi introspeksi ama diri mereka sendiri. Apakah mereka haus mengejar hal2 seperti itu?  Apa mereka trying to build themselves according to what God intended to be? Yg ga kompromi dengan hal2 yg ga kudus, yg jaga hati cewe baik2 bukan buat dicoba2 pacaran etc. Buat buka mata mereka sendiri.

And we can’t use this article to judge other man. Kita sebagai manusia gampang punya tendency seperti itu. Gue juga masih harus belajar, instead of judging, harus lebih ke guiding.  We can’t use these qualities in the article to condemn other men. My heart desire writing that posting is for young men and young women, to see the seeds that God has given to u. To see the capacity that God has given you. That you are actually meant to be a  man of honour, a man of faith, a man that reveal Jesus in yourself. And strive to be that.

For the woman, that very question “where are the godly men?” is indeed very dangerous kalo ga dibarengin dengan introspeksi diri sendiri. Apakah kamu juga strive to be a godly woman yg cantik di mata Tuhan? Apa sih wanita yg cantik dimata Tuhan?? Nanti ya topik selanjutnya buat di blog in HAEUhaUEhaUEHaE.

When u ask, “where are the godly men?” with frustration, definitely u also have to check inside your heart. Knapa loe kok frustrated ngomongnya? HAEUhaUEhauEH. Nah sometimes, u cant see the godly man that around u yg pas buat kamu, karena memang  Tuhan belon mencelikkan mata loe or loe sendiri belon siap hehehehe. Most of the times sih belon siap.

Yg gue percaya, saat Tuhan lihat the woman ready, Dia sendiri yg akan bawa that godly man to her. Liat aja kisah hidup para blogger/writer, Shinta and Hans, Grace and Tepen,  Lia and Mike, gue and G. Some of them dari Indo tapi eh kok bisa dapet suami orang bule, bulenya yg juauhhhh bgt lagi asalnya.

Lia orang Jakarte, Mike bule, orang suku Amish- mennonite, yg sampe skarang gue ga tau aslinya tinggal di negara mana, yg jelas tempat terpencil di Europe (or Amrik? .. ah ga tau ah gelap, nyari2 asalnya Mike ga dapet sih. Lia, u can correct donk for me.. eheheheh) (Ralat: Amish-mennonite itu bukan suku, but church denomination… ya gue sendiri ga bisa jelasin lebih jelas, pokoknya orang bule yg tinggal nan jauh disana gitu deh HAHAHAHA. Kalo mo cari tau lebih lengkap silakan visit blognya Lia ya HAEUhaUEhae)

Shinta orang Indo, suaminya bule orang Faroe, (keturunan Viking) alias dari Denmark. Faroe pulau kecil juga padahal and most of us ga pernah denger nama ini pulau.

And gimana mereka bisa ketemu jodoh mereka padahal jaraknya jauhhhh gitu? And yet Tuhan pertemuin mereka?

Mike ketemu Lia saat dia melakukan misi…

Hans ketemu Shinta saat di kapal Doulos, kapal misi…

Gue ketemu G saat misi…

lah trus para cewe2 nanya…“apa gue harus misi buat ketemu my godly man?” .. wkwkwkwkwk Ga lah. But the point is saat kita chase our calling, that’s where Tuhan bakal pertemuin your own godly man and future husband.

Even si Grace and Tepen, I dunno if they are called for mission or not, but what I know they both lg chasing their calling saat mereka bertemu. Si Grace setia nulis buku buat Tuhan, gue inget pertama kali dia nulis buku judulnya ‘a puzzle of jomblo life’ ditaon 2005-2006 an. Gue baca tuh bukunya. Thennnn.. baru taon 2011 ini gue ternyata bisa kenal ama dia personally karena blognya Lia HAEUhaUEhhaE. And surprised to see that she had released another book called ‘Tuhan Masih Menulis Cerita Cinta’, and dia merit and currently pregnant .. Padahal dibuku ‘jomblo life’ dia, dia tuh sangat pusing dan bergumul, sering ngomel2 ama Tuhan ttg cowo etc. And yet, when she is faithful ama Tuhan, chasing her calling, Tuhan bawa dia kenal Tepen…

Nah itu maksud gue, saat kita chase our calling, no matter what it is., gue yakin banget the woman or man will find their ‘godly man’ or ‘godly woman’ . So girls, dun worry when sepertinya disekitar loe ga ada godly men. Just focus in chasing your calling, being what God intended u to be. Nanti Tuhan sendiri yg akan bawa that godly pangeran to you. And it will be in His right timing. Mao yg jauh2 pun yg dari negeri jauh disono, Dia bisa bawa ke loe. Mao yg dari Amazon kek, Ethopia kek, Mesir kek.. or maybe malah yg satu komplek ama rumah loe.. HAEUhAUEhauEhaE

So, no need to ask “where are the godly men” in frustration… just be still, be a lady in waiting while keep focusing in mempercantik dirimu luar dalem..

Nah gue mao ubrek2 dan bahas bagian2 from this article karena menarik. And it is close to everyone’s heart I believe. All of us is searching for THE ONE (kecuali yg dikaruniai celibacy). Makanya this topic sangat rame pas gue post di FB AUEhaUEhauEHae… Here is the below article in blue. And pembahasannya …

The 5 Pillars of Manhood
(How Men Should Love & Respect Women)
WE NEED MEN OF GOD WHO WILL LOVE & RESPECT WOMEN OF FAITH.. NEXT STOP “MANHOOD”

I spent the day with a group of men in our house church learning what it takes to be a man of God when it comes to loving and respecting women. In our day an age most men are not men, they are boys. Most guys still want to marry their mom, have a women serve and take care of them, are not willing to take initiative or commit in a relationship, most men are still living in fear, not pursuing their callings by settling for “safe” because its easy. This is sad, upsetting and the standard must change. Women don’t want to marry boys, they want to marry men. Women don’t want boys they have to put up with, clean up after and take care of, they want to be lead, pursued and taken on an exciting life adventure. 

If you go to most of the churches in the Western world today, you will find that there are very few spiritual men, instead there are many spiritual women. It’s disappointing, but I hear it from women of faith all the time, “Pastor Jaeson, where are the godly men?”

Nah!! That very question!

“where are the godly men?”

Ini adalah suatu pertanyaan yg ancient skali wkwkkwkw. Dari sejak gue single, sampe skarang udah punya anak, yg sering terjadi di greja adalah, banyak cewe yg single and godly but ga gitu banyak cowo yg single and godly. Pilihan ga banyak bokkkk.. hahuAHEuaheuahEae Yg banyak adalah cowo2 itu dateng, dan pergi lagi. Entah karena apa lah.

Yg setau gue, banyak cowo2 ini ‘ga berani’ approach the girls, or approach dengan cara yg salah, or ga ngerti panggilan mereka apa yet jadi masih lebih care about the concerns of the world, like career, travel etc etc. And most times, cewe2 single digreja, menunggu dan menunggu dan bertanya2… “mana nih kok di greja ga banyak pilihan..” .. ayo ayo bener gaaaa!!! hAUEhAUEhuAEHae Yg setuju katakan AMINNNNNN!!! *lho* HAHAHAHAHA

Today, a good brother and leader in our GBS community Daniel Ra explained what God showed him to be the “5 Pillars of Manhood” in how men must love, respect and serve women. It was enlightening and reinforcing from what I have been teaching men for years when it comes to pursuing a woman of God.. of course none of us are perfect, we all have our mistakes, but we must each strive to be better and greater than what we were before yesterday,everyday making an effort to be more like God, to be just like Jesus, to be a man of faith and honor.

The 5 Pillars of Manhood..

1. LEAD A man must be a leader in a relationship, in a marriage, in a family. There are no excuses. A woman doesn’t want to make the decisions for her man, she wants her man to lead in the relationship. A man must take initiative. A man of God is leader, not a follower, a servant, not a slave, a hero not a coward. A man of God knows God and therefore knows himself. He should be the leader spiritually first, emotionally, mentally and physically he should set the standard for others to follow.

Saat man tidak menggunakan otoritasnya sbagai laki2, the woman will rule. Itu yg sangat ga healthy. A man of God will lead his own family to where God wants them to go.

2. PROTECT A real man of God will protect his partner. That means he is willing to lay down his very own life, needs and wants for the protection of the one he loves. Every decision he makes when it comes to a relationship has her protection in mind. A woman needs to feel secure, that she is protected and safe with her man. She doesn’t need to second guess, wonder if she will be okay, or have her heart and mind played with. A real man of God will not only protect his woman physically, but also mentally, emotionally and spiritually. He always has the highest good in his mind for her safety, well being and wholeness.

Ini yg gue pernah bahas pas gue bawain topik ‘Love, Sex and Dating’ pas misi ke Sumba di satu SMA. U know, saat gue bilang ttg role seorang laki2 yg mestinya jadi pelindung seorang cewe. Some of the guys kayak tampangnya sneer gitu. Anggep itu remeh. But then gue tambahin, “skarang kalo kalian have seks sama cewe sebelon menikah. Apakah kamu melindungi mereka? U should know there are a lot of risks, bisa hamil, bisa penyakit kelamin. Dan slalu yg cewe yg kehilangan banyak. Kalo katanya kalian sayang sama cewe kalian, tapi bukankah dengan ngajak mereka to have seks with u malah sebenernya merugikan cewe kalian? Kalian bukannya melindungi tapi malah merusak.”

And gue liat tampangnya cowo2 itu langsung diem.. ehauEhauEHuaEHaE.. forgive them Lord as they don’t understand what they are doing. See, banyak cowo2 jaman skarang yg hilang alias ga ngerti ttg ‘what does it mean to be a man’ .. Jgn heran dari dulu sampe skarang, banyak cewe yg gampang klepek2 kalo liat pilem romance yg the man protect the girl, yg handle the girl ga sembarangan as she is so precious. Karena ga banyak cowo yg bisa kayak gini…

Apalagi ada cowo2 yg bilang, “kalo sayang, u have to make love to me” alias having sex. Wah gue bisa tulis panjang soal ini hAUEhauEhuaHE but next time deh. But intinya, as a man, if you really love your woman, u do whatever it takes to help her to be what God intended her to be. Finding her calling, building her up to be a woman yg cantik dimata Tuhan. Itu adalah laki2 yg gagah dimata gue!

Kalo malah minta having sex/ga sengaja leading her to have sex, are you ngerusak dia or bikin dia cantik dimata Tuhan?

Click dibawah ini for more pembahasan ya hehehe

This is for the Christian guys out there, don’t emotionally rape a sister, play with her heart and tell her you are just her brother or friend. That is BS. Man up. You either pursue a woman of God because she is God’s precious creation, or you don’t try touching it at all, or play with their hearts emotionally, unless you are willing to be up front and clear with your intentions and the direction of the relationship from the start.

Emotional rape is as painful to a woman as physical rape. Women are emotional beings and their hearts are not to be played with. Protect your sisters heart.

3. PROVIDE A real man of God will do whatever it takes to provide for his significant other. That means monetarily in finances, in basic needs and as well as what she desires. When a man asks a father for his daughter in marriage, the father will not ask, “How are you doing spiritually first?” No, the first thing the father will ask is, “How will you provide for my daughter?” Because part of being and becoming a man is providing for others, especially your wife and children. If a man can’t provide, he isn’t a man. God gave us hands and we must put our hands to work, no excuses to be lazy, God made us to rule the earth. 

Women are not be treated as toys, trophies or a luxury item, women are God’s highest creation, the very image of God.

Nah ini ada bagian yg mesti dijelasin. If a man can’t provide, he isn’t a man. Ini ga bisa diambil artinya secara literally. A man self identity ga ditentuin karena dia bisa provide or not. His identity is firm in Christ alone, regardless dia bisa provide or gak. What I mean here, banyak orang asumsi provide = financial. Kalo the man cannot provide secara financial, banyak orang2 yg ngejudge. For example kalo suami ga bisa kerja karena health or some other reason, ga sedikit yg akan nge judge, kasian ya, masa suaminya bergantung sama istrinya buat keuangan dll. That is very dangerous. Tapi laen cerita kalo the man is lazy. Then we can say that he is not operating fully as a man.

This statement:  women are God’s highest creation, the very image of God.

I don’t think women are His highest creation. Apa maksudnya kita much better than man? I dont think so. Man and woman complement each other. Kita punya qualities masing2 yg berbeda. A man is created to rule the earth, menjadi image of Christ. Nah untuk itu ga gampang, he needs a helper. That’s why woman is created, to be his help-meet. Nah wanita pun juga perlu bantuan untuk menjadi Christ-like. That’s why Tuhan bilang kita harus submit to our husband. Karena most women are ruled by their soul, emotion. A man will shape us, will lead us. When we choose to submit to our husband, ga ada lagi yg namanya di rule by our emotion. Ada clear direction from our godly husband, udah ga ada saatnya lagi wanita bergumul sama emosi, perasaan. Makanya Tuhan assign the man to be the head of the house, not woman.

I tell men all the time, “Treat your woman like a queen and you will live like a king.” Don’t be cheap brothers, you need to go all out when it comes to pursuing a woman. This is not a one time thing, but a continual practice. 

Women were created for beauty. They were created beautiful, to feel beautiful to be treated beautiful. You don’t handle a rose without care, it is the same with a woman of God, you treat her with the utmost care, honor and respect. Practically, that means you don’t take a woman to Denny’s on a first date, you take her to a place that hurts your wallet, but it’s worth it because she is worthy.

Hmmm ini tergantung cewenya lah ya. Gue sih ga mind diajak ke warung, pokoknya diajak pegi berdua aja udah seneng donk pas pertama kali first date AHEuaHeuahEe.

Also, men must also provide for women emotionally. When a women asks you, “How are you doing?” She is really asking, “How are you being?” Meaning, what are you feeling, thinking, seeing, being about at the moment.To love a women we must provide at every level – basic needs all the way to providing for them mentally, emotionally and spiritually, if not their hearts will die. Be a man, provide for your women.

But buat cewe, be careful supaya kita ga emotionally dependent on our guy. We cannot expect our guy to fully provide our emotional needs all the time. The only one that can satisfy it fully is Jesus.

4. INTEGRITY A true man of God is a man of his word. Too many men in our culture break promises, play with women’s hearts, date girls as if it was a game, and have no respect for women at all. This is disgusting. In old times, when a man said “You have my word!” that word was bond, it was as if an actual contract had been written, because your word was your reputation. How many men do we know today who say one thing, but do another? Men who do not keep their word, their promise or follow through with their verbal commitments.

In our culture we don’t take words seriously, but in God’s world words are everything. Blessings and curses come out of the same mouth. What comes out of our mouths determines what is truly in our hearts. What a woman wants is a man of integrity. Someone who says what he does and does what he says. Someone they can trust at their word. So as a man you must come through. Words means nothing if they are not backed up with action. Don’t say sorry unless you mean it. Don’t say sorry unless you are able to back up your apologies with doing the right thing. Integrity is doing what is right, whether people are watching or not. Integrity is what you do when no one is looking. 

Does your woman trust you completely? If not, it is a question of integrity. Don’t tell a women you love her unless your love shows, words carry weight. They either carry false weight or real weight, a woman knows when a man means what he says. So live by your words, live by action, be a living proof of your values, convictions and commitments. 

Don’t get involved in a relationship unless you are sure this what you want and what God is leading you both to do. I’ve had my share of mistakes in the past, where I got into a relationship without thinking about the consequences, protecting my sisters heart and the fear of the Lord from the get go, I’ve had to make amends and face the results of my sin and foolishness. Trust me brothers, don’t do what I’ve done in the past, don’t play games, don’t feed your fleshly desires, rather seek God, seek the best interest of the one you are pursuing, be honest, forthright from the start about your commitment and your vision for the relationship and stick to your word. Be a man of integrity.

This statement: Don’t get involved in a relationship unless you are sure this what you want and what God is leading you both to do.

Intinya: Don’t waste your time! If it’s not God’s Will, it is not worth keeping and fighting for!  Buang2 waktu, energy, perasaan. Udah fighting2 to work things out, eh at the end juga Tuhan bakal putusin or u pay the price Cape dheeee…

If you pursue a women, it should be with the intentions of marriage.If not, stop playing yourself and her. It’s not about finding the right woman, it’s about being the right man. That starts with first knowing God in order to know yourself, then you will know how to love and respect a woman.

Kalo pursue a woman buat pacaran aja, or coba2 rasain pacaran ya buat apa toh. Same thing for girls. Buat coba2 doank. Wasting time lah yao. Mending focus kejar panggilan or cari tau Tuhan created u for what purpose. Your  calling is more important than finding bf/gf. I believe when u chase your calling, He will bring the right one for u. Karena ga mungkin the right one has different calling. Coz when u guys merit, harus satu hati satu visi. Focus ke arah sana daripada pusingin cowo/cewe yg belon tentu dari Tuhan. That’s why I said, wasting time doank. And ngelukain perasaan sendiri. Be wise and guard your heart!

5. COURAGE You are not a man until you climb the great wall of China! This is what it says at the actual great wall. Well, I have climbed the Great Wall of China so I guess I must be more of a man than others, just kidding. What is the greater underlying message here? It is a message of courage. It is a message of adventure. A man of God is a man of courage, a man of adventure, a man who is willing to take risks and do the impossible. Men were born to live a life of great adventure. Men were created to fight battles. Men were created to rescue beauties. Men were created to live. Sadly, most men are not living. Most men are cowards, fearful and afraid of failure. Imprisoned by their own thinking and what others think about them. Many men are just boys waiting for their mother’s approval, or the approval of others in society. Most men I know are people pleasers, not God pleasers. They are more afraid of how others may reject them or not accept them if they choose to take the road less traveled. All men die, few men truly live.

Women don’t want nice guys or good boys, women want men on a mission, men on adventure, men who are dangerous. This is why many women are drawn to bad boys because bad boys live with a sense of risk, danger, mystery and unknown. Men were created to live fearless and to live by faith. But if you walk into a church today what you find are a bunch of boys playing with their toys, working at predictable jobs — not their true callings, and living boring lives. It’s sad, but most guys get their sense of adventure from playing video games or watching TV, what happened to our men?

This statement: Women don’t want nice guys or good boys, women want men on a mission, men on adventure, men who are dangerous.

Hmmm, I think banyak cewe yg mao kok ama nice guys wkwkwkkw. Nice guys in a sense, mereka kalem or orangnya sabar but of coz they have a strong passion for Christ.

This statement: This is why many women are drawn to bad boys because bad boys live with a sense of risk, danger, mystery and unknown. 

Menurut gue, salah satu alasan knapa women tertarik sama bad boys karena cewe punya tendency untuk mengubah/memperbaiki sesuatu. Sometimes, mereka liat nih cowo berandalan, bermasalah etc etc and cewe2 ngerasa kasian si cowo ini ga ada yg merhatiin, ga ada yg nyayangin. “Ntar kalo gue sayang2, pasti cowo ini jadi lebih lembut, merasakan cinta dari gue” etc etc. Pokoknya yg kayak pilem gitu deh. Dan cewe2 gini suka kalo cowonya kasar tapi jadi lembut karena dia. Yg berani melawan maut buat si cewe, yg berani nyebrang sungai penuh buaya hanya untuk ambil sapu tangan cewe yg jatuh di sungai. That’s salah satu reason knapa cewe tertarik ama cowo berandalan alias bad boys. Karena kalo the cewe2 dapet special treatment dari cowo2 ini, these girls of coz feel very very special…

This statement: women want men on a mission.

Kalo ini gue setuju karena gue jatuh hati pertama kali ama G karena gue liat hatinya yg on mission. A mission for God. Hehehehe. For me, a man yg punya visi, strong passion and mission in his life, such as panggilan or etc… sangatlah manly dan gagah hehehe. Karena mereka tau mereka harus kemana. Mereka tau tujuan mereka. Meskipun mereka mungkin jatuh bangun dalam perjalanannya kesana and dalam pembentukan Tuhan, but still they rise up again and focus. That’s what make a man, a man…

And karena mereka tau mreka punya tujuan idup. They will be able to lead their woman. And anak2nya.

A man of faith will sweep a woman of God off of her feet. He will challenge her to go the distance in God, in their relationship and in life. A man of courage is someone who in the face of fear still chooses to move forward with trust in God, setting out to obey God’s voice at whatever the cost, because that is what matters the most. We need men who have hearts fully alive, hearts full of passion and are on a mission to change the world. There is a high cost to being a man of courage, there is a price to pay if we want to be a real hero, it means we are willing to go against the grain, follow God against all odds and live a life of honor, courage and righteousness. When a woman finds a man of courage, it will encourage her to be all that God has created her to be. As a man, your goal is not how your woman can serve you, but how can you serve your woman?

As a man, your goal is not how a woman can serve your destiny, but how can you do all that you possibly can to release the fullness of God’s glory and destiny in her. Men take the lead, protect at all costs, provide in every way, live by your word and live a life of adventure with the Holy Spirit — obey God, not man and you will be the man of God you were created to be — and your woman will love you for it.

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Nah skarang gue mo bahas satu pertanyaan yg muncul dari salah satu komentator… hehehe

Question: setelah gue baca2 lagi.. kayanya perfect banget tu 5 pillars of manhood..too perfect no? mesti bikin list nya begini juga ?

My answer:
Ada juga yg komen begini di article aslinya,

“You have just described Jesus. The perfect, ideal man that all women should look towards.

No man walking this earth can fulfill all those things you’ve listed and outlined. While it may be something to strive for and worthy qualities in a man, realistically its not possible.

It’s lists like these that give women an unrealistic portrayal of what men should be like.”

HAEUaheuAHeuahE. So is it too perfect? Maybe. But I believe, these are the seeds of being a godly man. Komen diatas bilang ‘you have just described Jesus’. Ya emang man harus reveal Jesus in him. So that’s why these qualities ga gampang, karena everyday kita di shape to be more like Jesus.

Menurut gue sih, ini mungkin list yg terlalu sempurna. Tapi ga juga, karena I can see these qualities in my husband and some other godly husbands. Maybe ga smuanya itu ada fully.

For example, the statement: man have to live fearless etc. My godly hubby still has some fears… apa itu fear of height or other kind of fear. But does that mean, he is not godly? He is still a man of God yg I respect. Yes, godly man pun masih ada kekurangan2nya. But what is important, is that my hubby knows what to do when fear attacks. He comes to His presence and he settles it there.

So I think these lists are just a guide for all of us. The godly seeds yg kita harus cari and kembangkan.  And yg paling important lagi adalah, cari pasangan and jadilah pasangan yg punya teachable heart. Hati yg gampang dibentuk oleh Tuhan. And make sure that he/she is from God. Otherwise u will pay the price. What do I mean by paying the price? Kalian bisa compromise your calling. Karena belon tentu panggilannya sama. Life together will be harder dan lain sebagainya..

A teachable heart adalah attribute yg paling penting. Pasangan yg aslinya emang keras, but when God speaks to her/him, dia bisa berubah For example, kalo gue lagi ada ga setuju about something ama si G, I dont need to argue a lot or marah2 sama G kalo misalnya gue tau gue bener. Gue tinggal doa, curhat ama Tuhan.. and just keep my mouth shut ke G nya karena gue ga mao ngeluarin kata2 yg nanti gue bakal regret. And most of the times, nantinya Tuhan sendiri yg ngomong ama si G kalo dia salah. Ntar tiba2 G yg bisa ngomong sendiri kalo Tuhan bilang begini begono… ya basically dia sadar sendiri gitu hehehehe. Proven many times.

So girls and guys, carilah yg punya a teachable heart. Yg siap dibentuk ama Tuhan to fulfill His calling.

And these list of qualities in 5 pillars of manhood?… kita smua masih constantly learning….
Like the writer said,
of course none of us are perfect, we all have our mistakes, but we must each strive to be better and greater than what we were before yesterday,everyday making an effort to be more like God, to be just like Jesus, to be a man of faith and honor.

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